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Tuesday, February 2, 2016

TED Tuesday-- Elizabeth Lesser: Take "The Other" To Lunch

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Good Morning Folks,

Last night as the votes were tallied in Iowa, I bet you were thinking of how tired you are of this whole election process. especially the way its brought out the worst in all of us by taking sides on social media with some vilifying opposing views.


In a talk for TEDWomen, Elizabeth Lesser agrees. She observes: "I'm deeply disturbed by the ways in which all of our cultures are demonizing "the Other" by the voice we're giving to the most divisive among us. Listen to these titles of some of the bestselling books from both sides of the political divide here in the U.S. "Liberalism Is a Mental Disorder," "Rush Limbaugh Is a Big Fat Idiot," "Pinheads and Patriots," "Arguing With Idiots." They're supposedly tongue-in-cheek, but they're actually dangerous. The worst eras in human history, whether in Cambodia or Germany or Rwanda, they start like this, with negative other-izing. And then they morph into violent extremism. 


There's an angry divisive tension in the air that threatens to make modern politics impossible. Elizabeth Lesser explores the two sides of human nature within us (call them "the mystic" and "the warrior”) that can be harnessed to elevate the way we treat each other. 


She shares a simple way to begin real dialogue — by going to lunch with someone who doesn't agree with you, and asking them three questions to find out what's really in their hearts.

"This is why I'm launching a new initiative. And it's to help all of us, myself included, to counteract the tendency to 'otherize,'" says Elizabeth. 


A staple on Oprah, Elizabeth Lesser is the co-founder of Omega Institute, the US’ largest lifelong learning center focusing on health, wellness, spirituality, creativity and social change. She’s the author of Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow and The Seeker’s Guide: Making Your Life a Spiritual Adventure. For more than 30 years Lesser has worked with leading figures in the fields of healing—healing self and healing society.


"Otherizing" isn't just about politics. It's about building consensus and better relationships with your bosses, co-workers, friends, significant others... even the craziest of relatives you dread seeing at Thanksgiving. 


Says Elizabeth, "Who should you invite to lunch? Next time you catch yourself in the act of otherizing, that will be your clue. And what might happen at your lunch? Will the heavens open and "We Are the World" play over the restaurant sound system? Probably not. Because ubuntu work is slow, and it's difficult. It's two people dropping the pretense of being know-it-alls. It's two people, two warriors, dropping their weapons and reaching toward each other. Here's how the great Persian poet Rumi put it: "Out beyond ideas of wrong-doing and right-doing, there is a field. I'll meet you there."  Have a look:






Have a GREAT Day,



Mitchell D. Weiner
Chief Happiness Officer
  


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